I think there are some valid points in there, but I’m still not eating there.
CHICK-FIL-A IS NOT A HATE GROUP.
No, they’re not. I don’t think anyone is claiming that they, themselves, actively discriminate against gay people in terms of either their hiring practices or the services they provide. But, as someone who’s gay, I’m not going to spend my money at a restaurant where it can then be sent to a group that believes that I should undergo counseling to un-gay myself. (My term, not theirs.) (source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/socialissues/social-issues/counseling-for-unwanted-same-sex-attractions.aspx) The same website also has an affiliate (it says so right under its logo) that says that in order for me to live up to God’s intent for my life, I need to be celibate. (source: http://www.citizenlink.com/analysis/sexuality/homosexuality-and-gender-issues/) So while no, I don’t think Chick-Fil-A is a hate group, it does donate to groups that discriminate against gay people.
THEY DO GOOD IN THE COMMUNITY:
They absolutely do. They support local charities (and national ones) and do wonderful things. But does that balance this out? For me, no, it doesn’t. McDonald’s has the Ronald McDonald House, which helps sick children and their families. Wendy’s supports adoption. Those are two ways I can also support charity while not also giving money to groups that don’t want me to get married.
DO YOU REALLY WANT COMMERCIAL AND POLITICAL LIVES ENMESHED?
In this case, yes. I would possibly like to get married some day. At any rate, I don’t think it’s Chick-Fil-A’s business or Focus on the Family’s business or, really, anyone’s business but mine and my future wife’s. I find groups that discriminate against gay people (in this case, Focus on the Family) abhorrent. I don’t want them to get my money. I wouldn’t send it to them directly and I don’t want it funneled to them via cows that can’t spell.
I’m not trying to send Chick-Fil-A out of business and I don’t even call what I’m doing a boycott. I just feel like it’s irresponsible of me to spend money with a company that runs against my values. I don’t think the loss of my $6 every few months will hurt their business, but I do think that it’s a good idea to be aware of where your money goes. If you are pro-life, for example, it would be a good idea for you to know which businesses donate to Planned Parenthood.
Most of my friends, though, have the luxury of this being an intellectual exercise. My straight friends, regardless of where they fall on the political spectrum, won’t have their lives changed by gay marriage one way or the other. For me, though, it’s my life.
And I refuse to give money to anyone who feels I am inviting God’s judgment by being who I am. (As Dan Cathy said here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/17/dan-cathy-chick-fil-a-president-anti-gay_n_1680984.html)
(Although, as I told a friend, it is pretty interesting to think that I can bring down the country.)
I don’t judge anyone who still goes to Chick-Fil-A. (That’s part of the reason why I’m a liberal, actually—my belief that not everyone has to live their life in accordance with my values.) I’m just saying that I can’t justify eating there.
(The title of this post comes from a lyric in the Dar Williams song “As Cool as I Am.” Lyrics here: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/dar+williams/as+cool+as+i+am_20036198.html)